Many women believe they have a problem with receiving. They say things like: "I'm better at giving than receiving." "I don't like asking for help." "I feel guilty when people do things for me." "I don't know how to accept support." "I feel uncomfortable when people take care of me." What many women don't realize is that receiving is rarely a mindset issue. It is often a safety issue. Because for many women, receiving does not simply activate pleasure. It activa

One of the most common questions I hear from women beginning their healing journey is: "Do I have to cut my mother off in order to heal?" Beneath the question is often fear. Fear of betrayal. Fear of guilt. Fear of being ungrateful. Fear of losing family. Fear of being judged. And sometimes, fear of what healing might require. The answer is more nuanced than many people expect. No. You do not have to cut off your mother in order to heal. But healing may require changing yo

When most people think about childhood wounds, they think about what happened. The criticism. The yelling. The conflict. The abandonment. The obvious forms of pain. But sometimes the deepest wounds come from what didn't happen. The comfort that never came. The questions that were never asked. The emotions that were never noticed. The needs that were never acknowledged. The support that was never available. This is the quiet pain of emotional neglect. And because emotional neg

Many women come to me believing they have a relationship problem. They think the issue is choosing the wrong partners. Poor boundaries. Communication challenges. Trust issues. Fear of vulnerability. Difficulty receiving love. And while those struggles are real, they are often symptoms rather than the root cause. Because long before we enter romantic relationships, friendships, marriages, or partnerships, we learn something about love. We learn what love feels like. What conne